When Someone You Care About Is Dealing With Depression — 8 Comments

  1. I wish I knew a way to make it easier on my husband. We’ve been married not quite 3 years. He’s not used to be around someone who struggles with depression. When he asks what’s wrong, I’ve started telling him I’m just tried, and lying when he asks if I’m depressed. If I say yes, I am depressed, then he wants to know about what, and I’m usually at a loss for words. If I say “nothing,” he persists. If I say “everything,” he thinks he’s done something wrong.

    I do have a work situation that is making things harder these days. Everyone around here is depressed, even those who don’t suffer chronic depression.

    I keep trying to put it in God’s hands, and I pray that he will show me the way I am to go, but I don’t think I’m doing a very good job of letting go of it. I guess you could pray for me to have a stronger faith, and for my husband to not worry so much.

    • Phyllis, thank you so much for sharing. I will certainly pray for you and for your husband. And I’m sorry that your work situation is adding to your depression.
      Feel free to email or FB me if you want to talk. Okay?

  2. I’m embarassed – and ashamed – to admit that I rarely thought of the weight I was putting on my family during my depression. Thank you for helping me be more aware in the future. The issue isn’t gone, but it is much better. And I will cling to your advise to cast it on His broad shoulders. I had a wonderful counselor once tell me to imagine God’s train filling the temple, as in the Bible, and me curling up in the hem of His robe. I also envision crawling up in Jesus’ lap and being held by Him. Both are comforting to me, and I hope will be comforting to someone else.

    • Thank you, Paula, for your comment. You are amazing in so many ways.
      Your recent death of your husband – the deep grief you’re experiencing – is real. Mourning takes time AND is understandable. Please give yourself time to grieve in your own pace and timing as you continue to find comfort in God’s compassion.
      Do you also have a history (even recently)of chronic depression, Paula? Either way, I will indeed continue to pray for you.

  3. Depression used to be such a dirty word. It took me years to accept counseling and and admit to my close friends that I suffer from it. My SO and I have been living together for almost three months and when my depression his hard, he automatically thinks there is something wrong in our relationship. Seeing his worry about losing me and his love for me helps me talk about what’s going on and has brought us closer together. I believe the first step in depression is reaching out and just talking to someone. Thank you for your article.

    • You’re welcome, Amanda. Thank you for taking the time to read the article and leaving a comment. I agree, reaching out and talking to someone is an important – and courageous step. And I’m so glad depression isn’t that dirty word it once was. Did you happen to see the article I wrote, “A Letter to My Mom Who Suffered from Depression” on my blog? You can easily find it on my FB page. I recently reposted it. I hope it helps.

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