Do you have a hard time seeing your friends’ family photos on Facebook? Just seeing how perfectly dressed they are practically shouts how put together other moms’ lives must be. You can’t help but wonder, how did they master Proverbs 31 so well?
Or how about when you attend family gatherings and hear that your niece or nephew was voted “most likely to succeed” at school? Especially when, at your home, it’s a cause for celebration when none of your kids failed that year.
You want to be happy for the success of your friends’ and siblings’ children. But, truth be told, with every proud post or success story, you feel more like a failure as a mom.
We know how destructive it is to compare ourselves to others. (And keep in mind, the very ones we’re comparing ourselves to are struggling with their own inadequacies, as well.)
Our heavenly Father knows we are works in progress – literally. The good news is that when we put our trust in Him, He will never stop working in our lives! Philippians 1:6 (ESV) says, “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”
Perhaps the best thing we can do for ourselves and for our children is to stop focusing on where we’re not measuring up and focus instead on God’s active work in our lives.
Would it help if you were to keep a journal of all the ways you see God changing you as a mom? Plus, make a scripture memory card (by writing this week’s verse on an index card) so that we can meditate on the verse as often as needed. The changes in our lives will trickle down, blessing our children, as well.
Our heavenly Father delights to see how His presence in our lives brings us joy and a sense of accomplishment. And as we continue to feel better about ourselves with our new focus on God’s work in us, we will find it easier to genuinely rejoice with other moms as they celebrate their families.
What about you?
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- Do you compare yourself to other moms? If so, how does it affect your feelings about yourself?
- If you could pick at least one area where you see God is helping you become a better mom, what area would that be?
- How can we pray for you?
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