If you watched a recording of how you relate to people in a typical week, what would you see? A G-rated family flick? Or a movie you wouldn’t want your pastor to see?
If you’re like most of us, you might discover things about yourself you wish weren’t true, such as being short with people more often than you realized. Or how often you try to hide an eye roll.
Perhaps you didn’t realize how far off the mark you were until you read 1 Corinthians 13:5 (ESV).
[Love is not] rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful.
Rude behavior runs contrary to what 1 Corinthians 13 teaches. As people who desire to love as Christ loves us, let’s discuss how rudeness affects our relationships, and, thereby, our lives.
Rudeness can undermine relationships at work, in our community, in our churches – and, most often, in our homes. Just as the temperature drops when a cold front moves into our area, so does the warmth of a relationship – dropping degree by degree – when we practice rudeness. If we want to rekindle the flames, we must stop excusing our offensive behavior.
What would happen if we gave God permission to show us …
Each time we interrupted someone because we felt like our words were more worthy than theirs? Each time we seized the remote because our viewing choices seemed better than our spouse’s? Each time we didn’t take time to listen to our coworkers because we’re too busy?
Each time we “snark” someone on social media because we didn’t agree with their opinion?
Rudeness can be hard to overcome, especially when it’s ingrained in our personalities. But as we confess it as sin and ask God to help us change, we’ll move in the right direction.
Even when we don’t do it perfectly, we can celebrate the times we get it right. Rather than becoming discouraged when we mess up, let’s repent to God and to the person we’ve treated rudely, and vow to try again.
Every time. Even if this means every hour – or every five minutes.
The more we take control of our rudeness, the nicer we’ll become. Then our lives will not only make for a family-friendly recording, it’ll also allow others to see our Savior at work in us.
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