Must we always get our way?
A highway sign tells me to merge because my lane is ending. Within a short time, I do.
Then, close to where the lane ends, several drivers who were behind me before I merged remain in the lane that’s about to end. I see their blinkers, but I refuse to let them in. I merged on time; therefore, I have the right to ignore them (and in a way, punish them) for waiting to merge until the last minute. They should have merged sooner – behind me. I justify my selfish attitude by believing I’m a more righteous driver than they are.
Can you relate?
As we continue studying, bit-by-bit, the love chapter in 1 Corinthians 13, let’s practice this week’s challenge: “[Love] does not insist on its own way” (1 Corinthians 13:5b ESV). The Amplified Bible, Classic Edition adds “does not insist on its own rights.”
This week, I’m going to ask God to help me yield my agenda and rights to His purposes. Our best model, of course, is Jesus. He never exerted His rights while living on earth, even though He had every right to do so. His death at Calvary is the best example of this.
When we put the needs of others ahead of our own, we demonstrate God’s love in us. Why, then, are we so quick to catch people not respecting our ways and our rights? Instead, shouldn’t we be quick to catch ourselves when we don’t respect the rights of those around us – including their beliefs and needs?
For instance, how many times do I allow people to express their opinion, even when I disagree? As a sales rep for Wave 94, how often do I help a coworker succeed (even another salesperson) or pray for a competitor to prosper (including another radio station)?
And how would it change our relationships if we simply practiced good manners by saying, “Please,” “Thank you,” and “I’m sorry”? Or if we saved the last piece of pie for someone else? How would it change our mood on a crowded interstate if we allowed someone to merge late – and smiled while doing it? We just might be extending grace to a driver who learned his wife has cancer or to a stressed single mom who simply missed seeing the earlier merger sign.
What would it cost us to give up our rights just once this week?
How much would we gain?
What about you?
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- How much would you gain if you were to put others’ needs ahead of yours?
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I totally agree with you!
Thanks, Marla!
Well, that was probably me trying to do a last minute merge. I feel guilty and don’t blame those who won’t let me in, though I’m praying someone does. Someone always does. It melts my heart. I try to be that person who let’s others in though they don’t deserve it, but I seem to easily forget the grace I was shown. I know (or believe) I have a good excuse, but often times I think I am being used by the late mergers. That is a dilemma. If there weren’t so many of them it would be easier. I am fortunate that I have made so many major blunders and been shown kindness (undeserved) that I most often remember the mercy I was shown.
But this is such an important exhortation Sheryl, thank you. Maybe one day I will get it and not put others in a position to get angry. That too is sin.
Pray the competition prospers? I’m not there yet. 🙂
Great comment, Barbara! And by the way, praying for those I’m competing against isn’t always easy for me, either. But whenever I do pray for them – an amazing thing happens. I feel less greedy. Less cut-throat. Does that make sense?
Yield my agenda and rights? What? No way, this is America! Oh, to His purposes. God does work in mysterious ways and sometimes lets us see what good comes out of our obedience!
Hello, FellowBeliever! Exactly. I love watching how God rewards our obedience, don’t you?!