You catch your breath and let out a long sigh. Seeing photos of happy moms with their happy families popping up on Facebook always stings – but with Mother’s Day around the corner, the idyllic images hurt all the more.
“Goodbye, Facebook,” you say, closing the website. It’ll be weeks before you cautiously venture back.
Even when the world isn’t celebrating Mother’s Day, does it hurt to see moms with their children because you’ve longed to be a mother for as long as you can remember? Or maybe you’d give anything for a chance to tell your mother, “Happy Mother’s Day,” just one more time. Or you miss your mom because she’s serving in the military – or serving time in prison.
Maybe the simple sad fact is that your relationship with your mother is lacking. So, so lacking.
Perhaps you used to look forward to Mother’s Day, but now your prodigal child doesn’t seem to love you all that much. The phone is deafeningly silent as you stare at the hastily-scribbled signature on the one-size-fits-all greeting card that just arrived in the mail.
And for the mom who, in spite of every mother-fiber in your being, made the difficult choice to give your child a chance for a better life, not a day goes by that you don’t wonder what your child is doing with their adoptive parents.
What is the best way to cope when Mother’s Day hurts? Is there anything you can do to take away the ache – or at least, lessen it?
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 (ESV) offers compassion and a way to find healing in the midst of your pain.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
I want to encourage you to embrace the comfort your heavenly Father offers.
Then, after you’ve experienced healing, or as a way to further your healing, ask God to use you in someone else’s life. Your pastor or a trusted community leader probably knows a young lady who could use a mentor or an elderly lady who could use a friend. You’ll be amazed at the many different ways you can comfort others with the same comfort you have received from God. By doing so, you’ll not only experience the satisfaction that comes from giving of yourself, but you may also find continued healing, comfort, and peace. Even in the depths of your desolation.
What about you?
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