The school year has begun. You prayed for your child, for their teachers and for a great year.

Academics matter – but so does helping your child succeed socially, especially when they have to deal with “that” student. The one who grates on everyone’s nerves. The one your child mentioned at the dinner table with an eye roll and a sigh.

So …

Before you address the “annoying classmate” issue, start with something positive. Ask your child what they’re looking forward to this year. Which classes excite them? What activities are they eager to jump into?

Then gently circle back to their comment about the student who “gets on everybody’s nerves.” Invite them to explain what they meant. Listen. Empathize. Let them know you understand – because you do.

We all have someone in our workplace or neighborhood whose behavior makes us want to take the long way around the building. Share a brief story of your own (without denigrating anyone, including mentioning names) about a person who stretches your patience thin.

Next, ask a tough question: “Do you think you ever annoy people?” If your child is honest, you might even get a smile – maybe a laugh. This moment of humility can open the door to a meaningful conversation.

Explain that you want them to enjoy every good thing they’re excited about this year, and you don’t want frustration or unkindness to steal any of those opportunities.

Then suggest something different: “What if we prayed for this student instead of making fun of them?”

Read or quote 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (ESV):

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up.

Pray together for help to notice one positive trait about this classmate – even if it’s a small one. Ask God to help your child see this student as someone who may be carrying burdens they know nothing about.

Together, pray for this student to have a good year.

And in your own quiet time, continue praying – asking God to guide you as you support your child academically, socially and spiritually. School is more than grades. It’s a training ground for compassion, maturity and Christlike character.

What about you?

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