Cold Fronts Can Destroy Relationships
How devastating would it be if you discovered you’d accidentally recorded a conversation with your spouse, child or neighbor that didn’t show you at your best?
How quickly would you try to delete that recording?
If you’re like most of us, you might discover things about yourself you wish weren’t true, such as how loud you get when someone disagrees with you. Or how often you cut people off when they bore you.
How much worse would you feel if the next day your pastor preached on 1 Corinthians 13?
Rude behavior runs completely contrary to what 1 Corinthians 13 teaches. 1 Corinthians 13:5 (ESV) says,
[Love is not] rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful.
Rudeness undermines our relationships at work, in our communities, in our churches – and, most often, in our homes. Just as the temperature drops when a cold front moves into our area, so does the warmth of a relationship drop, degree by degree, when we practice rudeness. If we want to rekindle the flames, we must stop excusing our offensive behavior and take action to correct it.
What would happen if we gave God permission to show us …
- Each time we interrupted someone because we felt like our words were more worthy than theirs?
- Each time we seized the remote because our viewing choices seemed better than our spouse’s?
- Each time we didn’t take time to listen to our coworkers because we were too busy?
- Each time we “snark” someone on social media because we didn’t agree with their opinion?
Rudeness can be hard to overcome, especially when it’s ingrained in our personalities. But as we confess it as sin and ask God to help us change, we’ll move in the right direction.
Even when we don’t communicate perfectly, we can celebrate the times we get it right. Rather than becoming discouraged when we mess up, let’s repent to God and the person we’ve treated rudely and vow to try again. Every time. Even if this means every hour – or every five minutes.
The more we take control of our rudeness, the nicer we’ll become. Then our words and actions will not only make God-honoring recordings, but our lives will allow others to see our Savior at work in us.
We’ll continue our discussion about 1 Corinthians 13:5 next time.
What about you?
I’d love to hear your thoughts about this post. (Others might also benefit from your comment.)
- How devastating would it be if you discovered you’d accidentally recorded a conversation with your spouse, child or neighbor that didn’t show you at your best?
- How quickly would you try to delete that recording?
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It can be really bad to react in a negative way but through prayer and help from Jesus, a person can learn to react differently. It will take a lot of time and patience. Like we say that Rone wasn’t built in a day.
So true. It takes a LOT of time and patience. Thankfully, God’s love and mercy is new every morning!
Thank you, Sandra!
Love all of Sheryl’s articles.
Wow! That is so sweet, Tami. THANK you.
And welcome to Today Can Be Different! Please pray for me as I continue to write.
So do I. They are always inspirational and thought provoking.
Thank you SO much, Sandra. I appreciate your and Tami’s encouragement more than you know.
This is something God and I are constantly working on.I pray God help keep both hands over my mouth. Let me stop and think and speak the words you would have me say not my own. It is a continued work in progress minute by minute,
Haha. I love the way you said, “This is something God and I are constantly working on.” And your honesty when you added, “I pray God help keep both hands over my mouth.” I SO identify, Susan!
I think community rudeness is at an all time high and off the charts. I hate to go out anywhere. However, remember that, as Christians, we live in the world, but are not part of it. We must be aware that our responses are presented in a way the world may not encourage or recognize.
Indeed, Robert. Plus, our loving, respectful responses can change the tone of the conflict!
It’s always nice to see you, Robert, at Today Can Be Different. Thank you for your comments.
There are many times because of my personality that I’ve been rude because of my personality and I’ve had to ask for forgiveness, I’m embarrassed to admit, but God can change our behaviors when we depend on Him to soften our hearts towards Him and others! I’m living proof. Now don’t get me wrong, I still have my moments, and haven’t arrived, believe me, I still have room for improvement! Good one! Thanks Sheryl!✝️
Wow!! Once again, I see so much of you in me, Kim. I have reacted exactly the same way due to my rude personality. Praise God that He is continuing His work in both of us!