Should We Have Warned Our Spouse at the Altar? — 13 Comments

  1. Really thought worthy post. It made me recall hearing the words from a guy I dated, “You remind me of my grandmother. She takes everything personally like you do!” I thought about it and knew he was right. I did try to reform. I am not perfect but have had fifty years to learn to do better Thank you for the excellent reminder.

    • I appreciate your transparency, Janice. I genuinely believe that others will read your comments and will appreciate your words also!
      Thank you again for stopping by Today Can Be Different! It means a lot to me, Janice.

  2. Amen to your comment about meditating on the word of the Lord.
    It can make a huge difference in the way we relate to our spouses.
    Miracles happen every day so make it a priority to lean on Jesus and pray without ceasing and a miracle can happen in our lives.

    • Amen! Amen!! Indeed! God is POWERFUL. Meditating on His Word, spending time with Him, and obeying Him will bring us surpassing peace in the midst of our relationships ~ including our marriages.
      Thank you, Sandra, for the reminder.

  3. I can so totally relate to how you wanted to re-word the wedding vows! I think all women can relate to it!!! Thank you, Sheryl

  4. I believe if all of us were honest, we’d know that there was no way we would have known what it is to make those vows before God and our husbands/wives and keep them let alone all the things it takes to be committed to them. Plus that we are not easily angered, or defensive and patient, loving one another as Christ loves us! It seems insurmountable, but with God all things are possible! I’m so glad I have learned that when I depend on Him and His Love our marriage goes more smoothly, never perfect, but easier! Thanks Sheryl!✝️

    • That’s key, Kim. It is when, as you said, we depend on Christ and His love for us, “our marriage goes more smoothly, never perfect, but easier!”
      Thank you for stopping by Today Can Be Different, Kim. I always appreciate it.

  5. It is important. By any statistic or guidebook, I think my marriage has had enough thrown at it by external forces that would have destroyed most by now. Statistically, it was doomed to fail before it started. When couples are at the wedding altar, their vows are sincere and well intentioned. Especially with younger couples, little do they know the freight trains that are coming and they had better not be stalled on the tracks. There will be many storms ahead and uncharted territory. They had better find a way to get through them and further thrive. It is always difficult because it is a first time for it and one can’t rely on previous experience. In my premarital orientation class with a church with other couples in the Tallahassee area, my fiance and I seemed to be the oldest ones there though we were in our early twenties. That was forty years ago. I wonder how many are still married. We have a goal for 50! As to what makes for a long term marriage in the face of adversity is beyond the scope of this reply, but 1 Corinthians 13:5 is a start.

  6. Hello, Robert. Nice to see you again. I always appreciate (and even enjoy) your comments.
    Congratulations on making 40 years in spite of all the “external forces”.

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